A Reader’s View of Coming Out to Parents
How To Come Out To Your Parents If You Are Gay
Being honest with people about your sexuality is called coming out. For many gay people, particularly if they
are in their teenage years or early twenties, this can be a very worrying time, especially when it comes to telling
Whilst it may seem the right thing to do however, it is often better that you do not tell your parents first of
all. Many people find it easier of they start by telling someone who is very close to them; perhaps a brother or
sister or another family member.
Not only will this help you to gauge how your parents are likely to react, but they can also provide you with
support and advice for when the time comes.
It is also important to understand that, in most likelihood, your parents will be shocked. Try and prepare for
this, and have your answers and reasoning practiced. Most parents are understanding; they are people just like you
and will, whether it is over a long time or not, accept and support your decision.
The most important choice you will probably have to make is exactly when and where you choose to drop this
bombshell. For example, choosing your granny’s 90th is not recommended. Try and select a time when it is just the
two or three of you.
It is also a good idea to try and drop some clues in the lead up to your announcement; to almost make them reach
the conclusion for themselves. Indeed, they may surprise you and come to you with a welcoming embrace.
It is always best to be honest, but if you really feel your parents will freak, it may of course be the best
decision to not tell them.
Telling your parents you are gay should be an experience as individual as you are, so make sure it is something
you are comfortable with and happy to do.